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How to Respond to the Tragedy

  Tragedy strikes. And it breaks our heart open. Sometimes we get stretched beyond all reason, beyond all endurance, to the point of breaking. Seeing it, my heart goes out with compassion.   Compassion for ourselves, for our daily failures. Compassion for others, for helplessness in the face of powers greater than human. Compassion that […]

Posted on 09/12/2017 05:41 am | Comments Off on How to Respond to the Tragedy
 

Are You Selfish?

“That sounds so selfish.” That comment is voiced regularly in my office and I’m delighted when I hear it. It shows me that there’s some awareness of a feeling that’s uncomfortable enough to examine. Usually, the “that sounds so selfish” question comes from the belief that the wishes of others should come first. That’s the […]

Posted on 09/05/2017 06:36 am | Comments Off on Are You Selfish?
 

Rabbit Holes

Do you go down rabbit holes? Does it take you off course? My invitation to rabbit holes is resistance. For me, resistance is not so much about staying stuck in one place as it is about not staying the course. Instead of persisting, of staying the course, I resist—by chasing rabbits. I’d much rather race […]

Posted on 08/29/2017 06:13 am | Comments Off on Rabbit Holes
 

Caught in Between

I’m at 30,000+ feet, flying home from Salt Lake City and my annual trip to the Usana International Convention. “Convention” is much like the fair was to me when I was a child. Lots to see, lots to learn, friends to hang with and lots of energy. From each presenter at the convention there was […]

Posted on 08/24/2017 11:05 am | Comments Off on Caught in Between
 

Road Closed, Change Directions

Late last summer I had to change my route from home to wherever I was headed. The most expedient, convenient, logical way from my house to the main thoroughfare was inaccessible. My road was closed. I could no longer take my familiar way through by driving around barriers or outwitting the road construction. A new […]

Posted on 08/15/2017 07:00 am | Comments Off on Road Closed, Change Directions
 

Do You Know What You Want?

This is probably the most difficult question for people to answer when they meet with me. The answer usually quickly degrades into wanting people in their lives to change and do something differently. But those things are not up for grabs here. Directing the lives of others is beyond your authority. This is not about […]

Posted on 08/08/2017 10:31 am | Comments Off on Do You Know What You Want?
 

Are You My Mother?

Remember that childhood story? A baby bird hatches while its mother is away finding food in anticipation of the baby’s arrival. The baby bird falls out of the nest and, lost and lonely, starts looking for its mother. It approaches a kitten and asks, “Are you my mother?” It comes across a dog and asks […]

Posted on 08/02/2017 10:09 am | Comments Off on Are You My Mother?
 

Go Slow. Take Notes. How to Avoid Another Narcissist in Your Life

Whether I’m getting my hair cut, having dinner with a friend or sitting on the therapist’s seat, I hear stories of emotional and physical abuse. Maybe this is because some people I come across know of my book, Sweet Relief From the Everyday Narcissist, and feel safe talking with me.  Or perhaps it’s because the phenomenon of narcissistic […]

Posted on 07/24/2017 05:45 pm | 1 Comment
 

Body Talk: How to Read What You’re Feeling

Ever get to that place where you “lose your cool”? The hotter it gets, it seems, the easier it is to lose it. And when you loose your cool, nobody feels good afterwards. Your target doesn’t like that kind of attention, and then there’s the guilt that swamps over you, leaving shame and embarrassment in […]

Posted on 07/17/2017 05:34 pm | Comments Off on Body Talk: How to Read What You’re Feeling
 

Witnessing: The Under Rated Gift of Independence

My son is living with me this summer as he commutes to his college internship. He’s a kind and gentle young man and I like him a lot. But, having him here reminds me how much I have to work with myself to refrain from taking his learning away from him. In that refrain is […]

Posted on 07/04/2017 05:33 am | Comments Off on Witnessing: The Under Rated Gift of Independence
 
 
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