Do you go down rabbit holes? Does it take you off course? My invitation to rabbit holes is resistance. For me, resistance is not so much about staying stuck in one place as it is about not staying the course. Instead of persisting, of staying the course, I resist—by chasing rabbits. I’d much rather race […]

When I think of celebrating Mother’s Day, I think of having my children here at home with me, spending time together as a family. That would be the perfect gift.   Or would it?   On the one hand, being with my kids and doing something special, like going on a bike ride together on […]

There are no tigers in my back yard, no snakes about my feet. Yet there it is—that protective sense deep within that generates fear. It’s that link to my inheritance from the long line of those who have come before me—ancient cave dwellers, medieval servants, settlers on the frontier. Foes today don’t seem as obvious […]

“Practice dying.” That is family therapist Carl Whitaker’s advice on living fully (he was quoting Plato). Throughout the 25 years that quote has been posted on my bulletin board, I’ve revised my interpretation of it from time to time. After being so ill once that I literally did have one foot in the grave, I’ve […]

“I keep thinking that if I can just get everything done, I can sit down and rest.” This thought is not new—or unique—to me. I can’t count the number of times I said this, or heard it said. Twenty years ago I was looking at the farm property that would become my home—58 acres, a […]